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In our experience, even people who have good social support, strong coping skills, and have handled other issues well, can be overwhelmed when life suddenly shifts.
New stresses or new challenges, even those considered positive ones, new job, new home, baby, or a series of difficult changes, such as illness for yourself or a loved one can cause a shift.
Coaching may add an invaluable layer of support so that you can re-assess, strengthen, or learn new coping skills. Coaching can also provide a supportive, caring, outside perspective.
At HSH, we fully believe that when someone begins to contemplate and seek support, it is an indicator that an inner knowing is at play. Seeking coaching does not mean there is something wrong with you. Sometimes it means that you are ready to seek something new.
Initial Individual Sessions are generally2 hours in order to obtain a thorough assessment of needs and goals in order to collaborate on a specific plan.
Regular individual follow-up sessions are 50-80 minutes in length. However, the exact length and frequency are agreed upon during the first session.
Initial Couples/Relationship Sessions are held for an average of 2-3 hours order to obtain a thorough assessment of needs and goals in order to collaborate on a specific plan.
Regular couples/relationship follow-up sessions are approximately 2 hours. The exact length and frequency are agreed upon during the first session.
Coaching services are not covered by insurance.
Frequency of followup sessions is determined at your initial session and generally occur every other week.
No information is disclosed without prior explicit written permission from the client.
However, there are some exceptions required by law to this rule. Exceptions include:
- Suspected child abuse or dependent adult or elder abuse. The therapist is required to report this to the appropriate authorities immediately.
- If a client is threatening serious bodily harm to another person. The therapist is required to notify the police.
If a client intends to harm himself or herself. The coach will make every effort to work with the individual to ensure their safety. However, if an individual does not cooperate, additional measures may need to be taken.
At HSH, we pride ourselves on being a multi-cultural, multi-ethnic, and multi-religious practice. We are sensitive and experienced in helping clients from varying backgrounds in creating richer love and intimacy that honors their culture and religion.
Coaching does not provide any diagnosis.
Most people seek support, either individually or as part of a partnership, because they want to change a pattern, want to clear resentments and anger, are tired of being unfulfilled or are at a transition in their lives that may lead to the end of the relationship.
We cannot guarantee if your relationship will be saved or what will happen.
What we can say is that we will hold a sacred space where you (and your partner) can give voice to what is causing upsets, exploring what you want to change and have different, and most importantly how you can be different with yourself and your loved one.
Whether a couple decides to remain together or separate is part of the process, and both can be done from a place of kindness and love and not anger or fear.
For coaching to be most effective you must be an active participant—both during and between the sessions. People seeking coaching need to be willing to take responsibility for their actions, work towards change and create greater awareness in their lives.
A number of benefits are available from participating in coaching.
Coaching can provide a fresh perspective on a difficult problem or point you in the direction of a solution. The benefits you obtain from coaching depend on how well you use the process and put into practice what you learn. Some of the benefits available from coaching include:
- Attaining a better understanding of yourself—including your wants, needs and deal-breakers in your relationship with others.
- Developing skills for improving your relationships
- Learning new ways to cope with stress and anxiety
- Managing anger, grief, depression, and other emotional pressures
- Improving communications and listening skills
- Improving boundaries with others
- Connecting more effectively with Self-care and self-compassion
- Changing old behavior patterns and developing new ones
- Discovering new ways to solve problems in your family or marriage
- Improving your self-esteem and boosting self-confidence
- Learning more effective ways to ask for what you want
- Learning more effective skills to support you create more intimacy & pleasure in your relationship.
Fighting may increase for a number of reasons. The fact is an average couple might be unhappy for six years before seeking support.
At that point, it can feel pretty tough to narrow down and fix any problem and the emotionality surrounding the issues is often quite high and may even feel volatile.
Couples many times choose not to talk about what is upsetting them for a long time because they don’t want to rock the boat or add more discord to their relationship.
Partners begin to withdraw and ignore what is happening, in the relationship and with themselves, in an effort to experience less pain.
Because coaching is a safe place, many times partners decide to go for it and share grievances and what is shared can be difficult to hear or even taken personally.
Fighting is not a sign that coaching not working rather it is a sign that what needs to be cleaned up and healed is coming to surface.
A well-trained coach will contain the arguing and assist the couple in creating and holding space for one another so that the ‘fighting’ becomes productive and eventually healing.
We don’t believe in rehashing everything that has ever happened to you. When appropriate, the past helps us understand how we got to where we are now.
When explore our clients’ past, including childhood, it is to gain a better understanding of a pattern or belief that may be causing a problem in the present.
How does a childhood issue continue to show up in relationships today? Are there judgments created in the past that get in the way of your full potential? Forgiving these past judgments of self and others can be very crucial.