Men’s Sexual Wellness
A holistic approach to men’s sexual wellness helps men align body, heart, mind, and spirit in a way that helps him fully express who he is sexually, creates connection with others, and gives him freedom to really be himself—both in and out of the bedroom.
Through a holistic perspective of men’s sexual wellness, men learn to embody their unique sexual expression by becoming more aware of their bodies and its nuances. Confidence is the body’s innate sensuality and so is the knowledge of how he truly desires to engage sexually with himself and another.
Men’s Sexual Wellness and The Mind
The mind is often said to be the greatest of sexual organs. This is so, because often misunderstandings surrounding sex happen here—married sex vs. single sex, madonna-whore complex, beliefs on sexual orientation and preference—reside in the mind. The mind is also the space for sexual fantasies that can be used to explore what is essential for sexual satisfaction. This is why it’s so important to focus on the mind when considering men’s sexual wellness.
Emotions—love, joy, sadness, hurt, anger, rage—all used in the exploration of intimacy. Being able to express emotions can assist in creating a loving and open-hearted foundation for sexual openness, exploration and the receiving and giving of pleasure.
Spirituality, as seen through the spiritual lens, is the space where connection and disconnection exist. For some it can also mean accessing peak experiences of love, oneness, and healing. And for others, perhaps being in deep communion with the Divine.
It is a myth that men are on and off buttons and that they should want sex all the time.
Male Sexual Health
Intimacy is different for men and women.
Life events—both positive and negative, normal and out of the box—impact how men desire, express, and engage sexually.
There are many causes of men’s sexual health issues: Stress, anxiety, medical issues, and even positive life events may lead to problems in sexual functioning and interest.
Most of the reasons why men don’t engage sexually is “normal.” The problem is that many don’t know this or how to inquire about it. So, when confronted with a sexual problem, many will shut down, avoid, and not look for help
Culture and society often reinforce the myth that men should want sex all the time.
Male sexuality is complex and multilayered. In fact, men report that they want to feel connection with themselves and with their partners during sex and other intimate moment. They also share not knowing how to do this and much less ask their partners for help. So, their requirements for sex and intimacy are often overlooked and not spoken.
Male sexuality is complex and multilayered. Therefore, it has many causes of sexual health concerns.
Some are physical and require a medical doctor to assess hormones and other physiological conditions that may be causing a problem.
Others are related to stress, anxiety, or life concerns that lead to problems in sexual functioning and interest.
Therapy or counseling provide a form of talk therapy * that creates a safe space to find clear and workable solutions.
COMMONLY HELPED MEN’S SEXUAL HEALTH ISSUES:
- Difficulty getting or sustaining an erection
- Low libido
- Difficulty with sexual arousal
- Lack of sexual communication with a partner
- Coping with a partner’s health issue
- Uneven desire in a relationship
- Sexual boredom
- Compulsive masturbation or sexual behaviors
- Shame around sexuality or sexual expression
- Restoring sexuality after cancer or addiction recovery
- Sexually compulsive behavior including sex, pornography use, and masturbation
- Infidelity and infidelity patterns
- Conflict with religious or cultural beliefs
- Sexual trauma
Holistic male sexuality advocates having not just one sexuality, but several throughout your lifetime.
Men’s Sexual Wellness Needs Change with Time
Most cultures do not educate men on the life span changes of their sexual selves. Many expect to have the same stamina and desire throughout their life and when there is a shift in libido, they shut down rather than seeing this as an invitation to explore and evolve new facets of their sexuality.
In the last few decades, there has been a change in the roles in intimate relationships between men and women. Men often report that they have a difficult time sharing their full sexual desire & expression in their intimate relationships because of misunderstandings over libido/desire, objectification of sex and women, and exposure to various types of porn.
The expectations of men in intimate relationships have also changed yet there are contradicting cultural beliefs that lead men to feel alone and disconnected.
There exists a confusing polarity in what it means to be a modern man leaving many uncertain how to be in their intimate relationships. Holistic Sexual Healing can help throughout the journey to improve men’s sexual wellness.
At Holistic Sexual Healing, sessions focus on helping you explore your sexual self, needs, requirements, and turnoffs. You will find ways to feel free in your sexual expression. Most importantly, you will learn ways to communicate those needs to others, if so desired, so sex can be more mutually satisfying.
*Sex therapy does not involve any form of physical contact, nudity, or sexual behavior between client and therapist.